Dear Yours Truly Readers,
Last week, Chad and I made a dual-purpose trip to California both business and pleasure.
I enjoy our plane rides. We get to relax either by watching a movie shown on air, read a book or we get our quality time just talking about anything in our minds.
I don’t know what came over me but, I asked Chad after being married for seven years, “What matters to him the most?” Did his list change from several years ago even before marriage?
It was comforting to hear that his list hasn’t changed for the most part. It’s simple but profound. Here’s his list; but not in order of importance. 🙂
- Sense of Humor
- Sense of family
I’m no expert nor would I say I have enough experience in marriage only being wed for 7 years. Others would say, children makes a big difference in a relationship; and, I don’t have that either. But, what I know are ideals that I deeply believe, that no matter a couple have kids or not, or married for a short while or otherwise, will work.
- I remember my dad saying, “Don’t make promises. But, not because you can’t keep them but because when you love someone, you don’t promise, you just do it. Such as saying, “I promise to respect you or I promise to be faithful to you”. You don’t promise those things to your partner. It’s expected from you.
- Don’t underestimate the power of “time with and for each other”. No matter how busy you get, whether just the two of you or as a family, don’t just try to commit to carve out time, but rather, commit to spend time with each other. Start a tradition of celebrating just the two of you.
- Take care of each other. Everyone who surrounds you move on. Even your children move on when they get older and start their own families. But, no matter if people have come and gone, you have each other to lean on. So, take good care of your love and partnership.
I had a great night with my girlfriend last night over food and wine.
She gave me an update on her married life of five years and her two year old toddler.
Life has been hard for her, or should I say marriage has been hard which makes everything around her complicated.
It’s the typical story of a couple so in love when they were “boyfriend/girlfriend” or even “each other’s fiancé”. But, after five years and a toddler, marriage has not been the same.
Call me old fashion…yes, I LOVE Barbara Streisand! Well…Chad thinks I should have been born in the 50’s since everything about the 50’s I JUST LOVE! (Although…Barbara Streisand wasn’t exactly popular in the 50’s!).
On my flight back from visiting my mom, I listened to Barbara Streisand’s newest album “Partners” on my iTunes. There have been many renditions of these types of song styles where well-known artists sing with other well-known artists such as Frank Sinatra’s and Tony Bennett’s Duet.
I’m sure you’ve heard Tony Bennett’s “It Had to be You” but sang by Streisand and Michael Buble?
It Had to Be You
It had to be you, it had to be you
I wandered around and finally found
Somebody who could make me be true
Could make me be blue or even be glad
Just to be sad, thinking of you
Some others I’ve seen, might never mean
Might never be cross or try to be boss
But they wouldn’t do for nobody else
Gave me a thrill with all your faults I love you still
It had to be you, wonderful you, it had to be you
Although its 3 weeks away from Thanksgiving, I need to plan for a menu of dishes that I’d like to cook for our friends and family.
I want something different than the traditional Turkey. So I thought of serving each of my guest roasted stuffed Cornish Hen glazed with infused honey balsamic marinade. Any unique ideas for side dishes? Please comment below! I need your help!
Dear Yours Truly Readers,
I visited my mom over the weekend for an early Thanksgiving celebration because this year, we will spend the actual Thanksgiving Holiday with Chad’s family.
While my mom was prepping for last minute touches on décor before our guests arrive, I shuffled through some old photos of my grandparents, although the photos weren’t stored in any special ways – most of them survived through the test of time. I LOVE looking at them. And each time I do, I always thought how my mom and I look exactly alike when we were growing up.
The one picture that caught my eye was my great grandparents wedding picture. My mom is the lucky great grandchild who kept all old photos. Or perhaps, amongst all her siblings, she was the most sentimental one. 🙂
I admire the vintage style of weddings and everything about it! My grandma’s gown was spectacular- simple cut neckline, simple silhouette, simple soft fabric: just simply elegant!
…accept it with open arms.
I’m lucky that I have known love in its purest sense of its word by seeing my parent’s marriage so strong and everlasting.
I’ve experienced it (and still continue to) with Chad. And, love struck me really hard. I wouldn’t want to let it go nor lose sight of it. I’ve found my true love. He is my soul. And, between the two of us, our hearts will forever remain committed. Although people say that we have no control over where our hearts take us… I somehow don’t believe it. What I believe is that in this world love is given to each of us; we should never stop nurturing it and discovering the wonders of it. You should love each other wholeheartedly and everything else will come its way naturally.
Dear Yours Truly Readers,
In June, I wrote a blog titled, “Color of the Year – Marsala”, to tie it with our leather colors at YoursTrulyWeddingAlbums.com leather choices for your wedding albums covers.
Last month, Chad and I attended a seminar for business owners in the wedding industry. Not that I’m surprised to hear that “greige” is the “in” color of wedding themes; but, I was happy to hear (and see) the creativity of color palettes that the wedding industry has inspired for the brides and grooms.
So, “greige” is the new “grey” or the new “beige” – love it! We saw about three companies with employees wearing “greige” colored t-shirts. It’s pretty cool.
For our 7th year Anniversary, Chad and I traveled to New Orleans, a tradition we anticipate each year. At our hotel we came across a wedding that was unbelievably breathtaking.
Although I felt like a stalker, I asked Chad if we could follow the bridal party and watch the photographers take photos, capturing the bride and groom’s special moments.
The wedding had a very local theme, not one of the “barn” or “farm” themes that became so popular in today’s weddings.
Dear Yours Truly Readers,
Alright…it was that time again when Chad and I had our 3rd quarter check of our New Year’s Resolution. It was fun, actually. We had dinner at a neighborhood Italian restaurant and over glasses of champagne; we started our “3rd quarter” review. 🙂
First, he asked, “Are you prepared for the review?” And, I said, “I’m always prepared…you?” With a “not-so-sure” look on his face, he said, “I’m not.” (with a face looking for sympathy!).
Well…we had to do it anyway. So…we ordered our food then our review began. So here are the updates in bold (Please read my blog : Love, Life and Leisure: A New Year’s Resolution):
Chad and Zoe’s Relationship Development
- Continue to build on our solid foundation and NEVER EVER take each other for granted! – Right on Target!
- Continue our weekly “date nights” on either Thursdays or Fridays – Definitely on Target! We even committed to turn off our phones!!
- Continue to celebrate our anniversary in Louisiana where we “officially” started dating – YES WE DID…Yay! After I surprised him with the Venetian Boat Parade by the lake we decided to take a trip to Louisiana this pass week!
- Spend more time with our friends Yup –hhhmmm… not as well as we did the first half of the year. We need to be better at this!
- Begin our plans to move into a new home to start a family – Yikes…no movement here! Still “on the fence” with the whole “baby thing” – we still need to get YoursTrulyWedding Albums really solid and off the ground. Sorry…we have to wait a bit longer 🙂