Dear Yours Truly Readers,
I can’t believe how fast time flew by…in just a snap of a finger, 2016 is here to welcome us.
End of year is such a significant time for me and Chad. It’s our time of reflection, resolution, and hope for the future.
Chad and I reflect on our accomplishments with such a deep sense of gratefulness to the many people who surround us with their compassion, love, thoughtfulness and affection.
It is also our time to reflect on our lives overall while embracing all the good and the bad. It is a wonderful way to see the progress that we’ve made or failed to make on this journey we call life.
Dear Yours Truly Readers,
No matter if you’re religious or not, the holiday season seems to be the time of the year when the whole world seems kinder, happier, more loving and joyful. Sending holiday wishes to yours truly takes an open heart and genuine words of affection.
Every time I watch a Christmas movie, I tear up. I appreciate what a wonderful life I have because I get to live my life every day knowing that my loved ones are in it.
My holiday wish for you is simple: May this time of year brings to mind those things in life that are most important. May it remind you to focus on all of the good fortunes that you are blessed to have!
Hhhmmm…this may be a loaded statement.
Share your story with us when you first saw the love of your life…what were your first impressions, feelings, reactions? Here’s mine.
The first time I saw Chad, I thought he was:
- A snob (well…I was proven wrong…he is such a grounded person)
- A high maintenance guy who is more high maintenance than most females I know (this is still soooo true!)
- Impatient (true in the beginning; but, am able to calm him down now
- Super cute (still so true even after many years!)
- Could use a little help in coordinating outfits!
So, these were my first impression from our first meeting. Most of my impressions changed when I got to talk to him the second and third time around. He wasn’t THAT bad after all.
How many times did you tell yourself, “What should I do this weekend?” or “I want to do something different this weekend?”
We often fall into the same old routine or trap of spending our weekends the same way. So, this weekend, I thought of listing things that you can easily do!
- Volunteer with your local community organization.
- Watch a classic film like Singing in the Rain, The Godfather or old James Bond with Sean Connery.
- Say hello to a neighbor you don’t usually talk to.
- Plan a day trip to somewhere outside your city or visit a suburb you haven’t been.
- Learn five phrases in a new language–what about German, Italian or Thai?
- Listen to a genre of music you haven’t tried before–Country, New Age?
- Try a new cuisine–what about French, Cuban or Korean?
- Learn a new skill or sport–what about cooking a new dish, water skiing or snow boarding?
So, what new things will you try today?”
Dear Yours Truly Readers,
Last week, Chad and I made a dual-purpose trip to California both business and pleasure.
I enjoy our plane rides. We get to relax either by watching a movie shown on air, read a book or we get our quality time just talking about anything in our minds.
I don’t know what came over me but, I asked Chad after being married for seven years, “What matters to him the most?” Did his list change from several years ago even before marriage?
It was comforting to hear that his list hasn’t changed for the most part. It’s simple but profound. Here’s his list; but not in order of importance. 🙂
- Sense of Humor
- Sense of family
I’m no expert nor would I say I have enough experience in marriage only being wed for 7 years. Others would say, children makes a big difference in a relationship; and, I don’t have that either. But, what I know are ideals that I deeply believe, that no matter a couple have kids or not, or married for a short while or otherwise, will work.
- I remember my dad saying, “Don’t make promises. But, not because you can’t keep them but because when you love someone, you don’t promise, you just do it. Such as saying, “I promise to respect you or I promise to be faithful to you”. You don’t promise those things to your partner. It’s expected from you.
- Don’t underestimate the power of “time with and for each other”. No matter how busy you get, whether just the two of you or as a family, don’t just try to commit to carve out time, but rather, commit to spend time with each other. Start a tradition of celebrating just the two of you.
- Take care of each other. Everyone who surrounds you move on. Even your children move on when they get older and start their own families. But, no matter if people have come and gone, you have each other to lean on. So, take good care of your love and partnership.
I had a great night with my girlfriend last night over food and wine.
She gave me an update on her married life of five years and her two year old toddler.
Life has been hard for her, or should I say marriage has been hard which makes everything around her complicated.
It’s the typical story of a couple so in love when they were “boyfriend/girlfriend” or even “each other’s fiancé”. But, after five years and a toddler, marriage has not been the same.
…accept it with open arms.
I’m lucky that I have known love in its purest sense of its word by seeing my parent’s marriage so strong and everlasting.
I’ve experienced it (and still continue to) with Chad. And, love struck me really hard. I wouldn’t want to let it go nor lose sight of it. I’ve found my true love. He is my soul. And, between the two of us, our hearts will forever remain committed. Although people say that we have no control over where our hearts take us… I somehow don’t believe it. What I believe is that in this world love is given to each of us; we should never stop nurturing it and discovering the wonders of it. You should love each other wholeheartedly and everything else will come its way naturally.
On our (Chad) way out from a museum we toured last Sunday, we passed by its Gift Shop. While waiting for Chad to pick-out a book he wanted to buy, I browsed through the shop’s greeting cards department.
I’m sure you’ve seen gondola stands of cards for all sorts of occasions. As I spun the gondola, a card caught my attention at the “Friendship” and “Encouragement” section with a quote:
“When you cry, I’ll dry your tears. When you fall, I’ll pick you up. When you rise up, I’ll rise with you. And, if you move on, I’ll always be here for you when you need me again.”
I had chills when I read it. Now…that’s friendship. I bought the card and that night, I gave it to Chad before we went bed. I kissed him good night and whispered “I will always be here for you.”
For our 7th year Anniversary, Chad and I traveled to New Orleans, a tradition we anticipate each year. At our hotel we came across a wedding that was unbelievably breathtaking.
Although I felt like a stalker, I asked Chad if we could follow the bridal party and watch the photographers take photos, capturing the bride and groom’s special moments.
The wedding had a very local theme, not one of the “barn” or “farm” themes that became so popular in today’s weddings.