Think about it.
My friends often tell me that I have very high expectations in relationships and especially in marriage. I understand why we often hear: “Wait until you get married then you’ll see if your husband/wife is still the same” Or, “Sure, you have time for each other now…but, wait until you have children!”
But, does it have to be this way? Do we have to accept the norm?
From my previous blog post: “What Happens When Couples Get Married?” I quoted my mom who once said, “You want to continue to be viable to your husband. Don’t ever forget to care for yourself – always remain attractive, loving and caring. Make sure that he’s your priority in life (and children, of course) – but don’t assume that because he’s already your husband – it’s alright to let yourself go and not be mindful of his needs.”
I’m lucky to have a mom who, at almost 70 years old, still looks stunning and incredibly viable by keeping herself challenged mentally and physically.
So here’s some advice from my mom (and me) so that your marriage continues to “spark” and not “unflicker”:
- Challenge yourself by learning new things – it’s not good to be mundane
- Stay in shape – always look good and sharp
- Ask about their highlights and low lights of the day – it gives you a chance to stop, think, breathe and share (if you have children – include them in the conversation)
- Keep a list of the things you want to improve or accomplish every year as a couple (Please read my blog post: “Love, Life and Leisure: A New Year’s Resolution”
- Take your time to complement each other – it doesn’t matter what it is: his looks, smell, etc. Make sure he feels that you appreciate him and are paying attention to him.
- You MUST do date nights! I don’t care if you already have children…the more you should carve out time for each other (…and when you are on “date nights”…commit to NOT look at your cell phones…texting is also NOT allowed!
- Say “I love you” every day…please trust me…it does make a difference!
If you have other advice, let’s hear it. I’m sure all couples can learn a thing or two. 🙂