Then make sure your wife has a wedding album.
As a husband, you’re entering into a partnership for life. You’re expected to be the “yin” for your wife’s “yang”. You’re supposed to compensate for her shortcomings, just like she’ll compensate for yours.
All of the trends today in weddings make perfect sense: guys are tired of wearing black tuxedos and rented shoes and are wearing more casual clothing like high-top sneakers or boat shoes. Guys are more involved in the planning, especially for the things we care about… like music and food.
But for some reason, the trend today is that when you hire a Professional Photographer, only sometimes is an album included. Many photographers don’t offer albums, because quite frankly the process of choosing the photos and designing the album is so cumbersome that the photographers can’t make any money selling them.
That leaves couples to have to (1) either find another photographer who will make the album, (2) find a lower quality album online, (3) or not get an album and regret it for the rest of their lives.
When your wife wants to look at your wedding photos, do you think she’d rather scan through 600-1000 photos (many of which are dupes), or look at the best 80-100 photos that were creatively designed in an album? Of course, she’d rather have a physical album which you’ll both not only enjoy forever… but that your kids (and grand kids) will someday enjoy.
So here are some suggestions to ensure that you have a Happy Wife: (1) keep the bathroom clean, (2) plan a weekly date night, (3) never stop agreeing with her, and (4) make sure you get her a wedding album.
Dr. Gary Chapman wrote the famous book entitled The Five Love Languages where he helps couples recognize and understand their respective connections through the 5 “love languages”: quality of time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service or physical touch.
So what happens when couples get married? Why do dynamics change between the two after the marriage vows were shared on their wedding day? Why do couples suddenly seem to speak different languages but seem to flow in one direction when they were dating or engaged?
My parents once said, “The problem with couples is that as soon as they get married, for some reasons, they take each other for granted in many ways. They forget about taking care of their bodies, they don’t care about the words they use whether hurtful or not, they assume that because they are married it’s ok to do certain things and would say, “Oh – that’s ok, he’s just my husband or she’s just my wife”. The fact is, nothing should change and that as soon as you’re married, couples must actually work on their relationship harder. Marriage is a much deeper commitment. They should still remain attractive for one another, they should matter more now than ever.”
I learned from my mom that I shouldn’t forget about myself and always look the best for my husband especially after having children. She said, “You want to continue to be viable to your husband. Don’t ever forget to care for yourself – always remain attractive, loving and caring. Make sure that he’s your priority in life (and children, of course) – but don’t assume that because he’s already your husband – it’s alright to let go of yourself and not be mindful of his needs.”
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